5 things you should never tell your Mother-in-law
Mother-in-laws are uproarious!! Oh don’t take me wrong… I meant their roar-goes-up-cautiously any time of the day. Happens in every Indian household!! Your equation with your mother-in-law (MIL) decides your future, whether you are fortunately staying in house or viciously kicked out of the house. Whereas your future directly depends on the discussions, debates or false praises that you bestow upon your MIL. Follow the never-ever policies that we have listed below. After a pain-staking research on MILs, we have jotted down 5 things you should never tell your MIL:
- Comparison with your mom:
Your parents are God-like for you but they are not less than an evil spirit for your MILs. Consequences are such that your mom miraculously lands up in a boxing ring with your MIL. In your MIL’s terms, these are called comparisons and every bahu is very well aware of the fact that MILs hate “comparisons”. Your MIL is unique and so are her clothes, food cooked by her and her saint-like qualities. So the NEVER-EVER policy no.1 is to compare her with your mom. This is something you should tattoo on your hands lest you forget it. Praise your MIL inexhaustibly and never mention about your mom’s special effects to her.
- Your financial status is a game of monopoly:
You are stinking rich when you ‘just got married’. You are suddenly thrown in a pool of money from your relatives, friends and sometimes even your in-laws. Initially, you are angel-like to discuss your million dollar money issues with your MIL. She then pushes you into an empty pool by leaking all your money from your piggy bank… that is, little by little!! She might give you her locker keys to keep your jewellery and cash safe… which is an indirect way of keeping check on your possessions. This happens kyuki ….. kunki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi and it is a quality adapted by all MILs. Even if you want to be transparent to your in-laws, there are some situations that don’t let you portray your true self. So NEVER-EVER policy no. 2 is that keep your money issues off the beaten track for your welfare.
- Your husband’s weaknesses:
Nurturing a baby is the bumpiest path a mother walks on. Agreed!! A whole lot of familial melodrama can arise over unsolicited parenting advice given to your MIL, the moment you discuss about your husband’s weaknesses. Your MIL will blow your head in a micro-second because her son is the best son in the whole wide world and he is the next Dalai Lama. It is a natural tendency for a mother to be on his son’s side, in spite of being at fault. Your nit picking will not be entertained by your MIL at any cost. So do all the cribbing in front of your mom, instead of your terrorizing MIL. Never-ever policy no. 3 is that you will be at loss if you discuss your husband’s weaknesses with anybody.
- Your equation with her relatives:
‘How come my daughter-in-law is mixing up with MY relatives? Are they bitching about me?’ This is a classic question that pops up in every stereotypical MIL because of watching too many k-serials. Your MIL’s next question will be ‘Why is she not in the kitchen?’ A daughter-in-law should always be in the kitchen no-matter-what!! So the best alternative is to talk bare minimum to her relatives in her presence and blabber as much as you want to in her absence. Let your MIL be at peace all the time. You don’t want to answer millions of questions asked by your MIL after her relative leave the house like ‘What were you talking to them so much?’ Just smile and let go of her questions. Their inquisitive nature is in-born. Never-ever policy no. 4 is that smiling is the best alternative to avoid a battle.
- Intellectual advice of your MIL:
When your MIL starts off with unwanted/unnecessary parenting advice and criticism, its best to just smile and listen. Don’t act outraged – through aggressive combative words or body language even if she offends you, just be rooted to the ground. It’s a good karma!! In her backward, insulting way, she is just trying to help, so don’t stop listening entirely or you might miss a gem in the rough ‘koyla’. Keep in mind that it is just an advice, not written law, and you have to agree with or follow it. If the discussion is drilling a hole in your brains or you don’t want to listen to her talks, change subjects or politely excuse yourself. Never-ever policy no. 5 is that ignorance is bliss!!
You will be at peace if you follow the above guidelines. Habits die hard, so overlook the bad habits and inculcate good habits of your MIL. Many a times, you discuss family problems with your husband, but it is best to avoid discussing problems. Solve problems at your own level and let your husband live in harmony!!https://www.page3mumbai.com/5-things-never-tell-mother-law/https://d1pwtov3hkz0fo.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/20141224100943/images9.jpghttps://d1pwtov3hkz0fo.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/20141224100943/images9-150x150.jpgJust For FunAdvice of your mother-in-law,Equation with your mother-in-law,Mother-in-law,never discuss things with your mother-in-law,Never-ever policy of your mother-in-lawMother-in-laws are uproarious!! Oh don’t take me wrong… I meant their roar-goes-up-cautiously any time of the day. Happens in every Indian household!! Your equation with your mother-in-law (MIL) decides your future, whether you are fortunately staying in house or viciously kicked out of the house. Whereas your future directly...Aanchal MadanAanchal Madanaanchalgmadan@gmail.comContributorI have graduated as an Instrumentation Engineer. By the end of my last year, I was totally out of the box and wanted to be a business woman. So I took up jobs in HR and administration as a stepping stone. But destiny had crafted something else for me. So here I am writing for page 3 and hoping to strike a chord with my readers. I am an avid reader and was always keen on writing. I'm an optimist and a go-getter. Love to travel and music is always on my mind. I like to rely on my instincts majorly. Comical and fiction stories interests me more. I hope to make a difference with my writing!!!Mumbai : Page3